It’s only a story: Daniel Sloss at TEDxEaling


Translator: Thành H. Châu
Reviewer: Ellen Maloney Good afternoon, everything all good? (Audience) Yeah! Lovely. We’re all storytellers
at different points in our lives. We’ve all told stories in different ways
in different scenarios. Whether you’ve been a parent
telling a child a bed time story in a desperate bid
to make them go to sleep, whether you’ve been
a friend telling a friend about another friend’s
drunken antic at the weekend to make yourself seem
slightly less embarrassed. Or whether you’ve been
at a party telling a story to try and impress
the red-head in the corner and you regale a tale about this time
you were very witty and snappy, and this verbal encounter
you had with another person. But you weren’t really
that funny or snappy in reality, you only thought
of comebacks on the way home, but she doesn’t need to know that. She’s on her third martini,
she’s ready to go. We all tell stories
in different ways as well. When my dad tells stories
he’s straight to the point. It’s all the facts, no frills. This happened, this happened
then this happened, therefore this happened. Moral of this story is: Don’t drink tequila with your mother
otherwise you happen. (Laughter) When my mum tells a story,
she likes to have all the extra details, all the back stories,
all the character biographies and by the end, it’s been like
a nine-hour version of Inception. You’re not sure what’s happened you just know apparently someone
your mum works with is a bit of a cow. (Laughter) When my grandparents tell stories they tell stories
the way old people tell stories. They’re very humble, don’t like to brag. It’s always stuff like: “Oh,
and then I got my medal from Winston Churchill for saving all those orphans,
but enough about me, how’s school? Children are the opposite. When my brothers tell stories,
they do the thing all children do which is they have so much
enthusiasm and excitement that they promise a story that’s never
going to live up to your expectations. “And then what happened?”
“And then we went outside.” “And then what happened?”
“Then Matthew was here.” “Then what happened?”
“Then he farted.” “Great.” 90% of stories
my brothers have told me has always ended with
an unpleasant bodily function. Everyone is a storyteller,
even in the media: television, newspapers, tabloids,
podcasts, music, artists. Everything’s a different way
of telling a story. I tell stories differently as well. I’m a comedian. I tell stories that are punchy, jokey,
all the way through in order to keep an audiences ever-shortening
attention span solely focus on me. I tell true stories,
I tell exaggerated stories, I tell stories that are completely
and utterly made up. Total lies. Like, I’ll have been sitting
with my friends, having a drink, and one of them’ll say something like: “Ah, wouldn’t it be funny
if this happened?” And I’ll think to myself: “Yeah, that would be funny.” And then I shamelessly
take it down in my iPhone. Take it home. Write out. And somehow
integrate myself into this story so I’d become a hero, so I can then go out on stage in front of a room full of strangers, in a desperate bid to get them to like me. (Laughter) Because that’s all a comedian is. We’re desperate storytellers. All we do is go out to a room
full of people we’ve never met and beg them to like us. So if at any point you’re wondering
why I agreed to do this talk, that’s why. (Laughter) And also because my mum told me that if I turn down
the opportunity to do a TEDTalk, she’d put me up for adoption. I’m 22 years old,
I don’t know how she’d go about that, but it’s best not to argue with her
when she’s been drinking. You see that? That was a perfect example.
I made that entirely up, just so half of you went: “Ha” (Laughter) I was willing to fabricate
a story about my mother being an alcoholic
with an emotional problem who was willing to disown me
as a human being just so 50 of you went: “Very good.” (Laughter) That’s what I mean by
“desperate storyteller”. And the thing is we’re
the only storytellers, though, that really get in trouble
for our stories. Every few weeks there is
something in the newspaper about this comedian
that said something awful or offensive that’s offended one member of the audience who, by the way,
nine times out of ten, is an idiot. And then they talk about it
on the news and everything. They get scientists and doctors
to come on and analyse the joke, interview the traumatized audience member,
and then they all sit down and discuss, at length, a joke which lasted one minute
in an hour-long set and we all sit patiently and wait for the officials to tell us
whether we were offended or not. And then at the end of it,
they decide that we’re offended. Perhaps the comedian
shouldn’t talk about rape or murder, those sort of things on stage, that they shouldn’t be
broadcast in a household and we all feel
quite good about ourselves. Then switch over
to Eastenders or True Blood where there are scenes of murder,
sexual audacity, drug abuse, racially invoked crimes
and we all go: “This is amazing!” Why is it different? How come when a comedian
says something as a joke, it’s offensive? But when it’s acted out in front of you, it’s intriguing, it’s a twist. Actors are never criticized
or abused for their roles in films. Nobody came out
of “Inglorious Bastards” going: “Oh, I can’t believe Christopher Waltz
killed all those Jewish people. What an awful man!” Nobody came out Harry Potter
thinking: “You know what? I never trusted Snape. Not since he had that awful German accent
and tried to kill John McClane. (Laughter) There you go. People don’t get upset because
they know it’s fake. They know the actors on stage
are just portraying characters. So are comedians. That’s our job, We’re storytellers but we’re also so vain that we like to put ourselves
in the stories. We’re the writers, directors,
and stars of our own show where we’re just playing
an exaggerated parody of ourselves. Because we’re not going
to be ourselves onstage. We might play a version of ourselves.
But we can’t be our true selves. If we were to come on stage
and talk to you about our real opinions with balanced, thought-through points,
we wouldn’t be comedians, we would be politicians
and you’d hate us even more. Right? When we come on stage, we have to
find ways to make you laugh and our way of doing that is to come out and say something
completely stupid and ludicrous to make you laugh. Another method of doing it
is to take a completely, utterly, point that no one would agree with, something very obscure and blatantly wrong and find a way to twist it round and make it seem valid just for a second. For example, if I were
to make the statement: “I don’t think children should smoke.” Everyone in this room
would agree with it, yeah? But if i were to
come out on stage and say: “I think every child under the age of 13 should be forced to smoke
four packs of cigarettes a day because as my brothers are getting older, it turns out they’re very close
to being able to beat me in a foot race. That’s a way of turning it around. You’re not laughing at the fact
that I’m trying to kill my brothers. You’re laughing at me for being an idiot
for thinking that’s a good idea. OK? And that’s what we do with our comedy. We’re playing stupid versions
of ourselves. For example, if Ricky Gervais, Frankie Boyle,
or Jimmy Carr were actually as big as the bigoted, racist, fascist,
homophobic, sexists that the Daily Mail made them out to be, they would probably end up
working for the Daily Mail. (Laughter) They’re making the stuff up
to get that reaction from you. The reason I mentioned those names –
Frankie Boyle, Ricky Gervais, Jimmy Carr – is they’re the names commonly
associated with “offensive comedy.” The reason I put offensive comedy
in inverted commas there isn’t because I’m young and hip, it’s because, basically, I don’t really
get the term “offensive comedy.” No comedian wants to offend you,
that’s not our job. Our job is to make you laugh, make you think, make you smile,
make you want to sleep with us so that our night in that hotel room
is slightly less depressing. (Laughter) Not to upset you in any way, shape, form. Because, the thing about it is
when comedians are telling these stories, it’s to get any form
of a reaction out of you. And Jimmy Carr, famously,
was in trouble recently. He made a joke about the Paralympics. He made a joke that our troops
in Iraq were getting injured but at least that would make us have
a good Paralympic team. And people went mental. People were so upset. If you were to believe the tabloids,
trains stopped on the track so that people could get off
in order to vomit at how disgusted they were by this joke. People killed themselves,
they were so disgusted by what he said. Alright? That’s not the case. The only people who were not
offended by that joke? The war veterans, who found it hysterical. They thought it was great.
They repeated to each other. So if they weren’t offended by that joke, who’s got the right to be offended? People have developed
an amazing new ability recently. People can be offended
on behalf of other people. You can’t be offended
on behalf of someone. Feelings are non-transferable. You can’t be a husband
standing beside a wife giving birth going: “Don’t worry, honey.
I’m feeling pain on behalf of you.” She would beat you to death. (Laughter) Nobody asked these people
to be offended on behalf of them. They just did it themselves. They jumped in front of a bullet
that was heading towards a tree. Alright? It was a blatantly stupid
sacrifice they never needed to make. It’s amazing. One of the other topics, one of the most
controversial ones last year, was that Frankie Boyle made his comment
about Katie Price and her family. Regardless of your opinions on the joke,
which everyone will be divided on, don’t pay that in context,
you have to understand that Frankie Boyle made those jokes about Katie Price. Not to her. About her. He made that joke onstage
in front of a room full of people who were fully expecting him
to make that sort of comment. It wasn’t until the newspapers
phoned up Katie Price and repeated that joke to her
several times in order to get a reaction. That’s when she knew about it. I am fully aware that there are many people
out there in the world who don’t like me, who say mean things about me everyday, but I’d rather not know. OK? If you came up to me and you told me that
there was a man I’d never met before who was saying horrible things about me and you then listed the awful things
he said about me to my face, you’re the bad guy. That person has the right to say
whatever he wants about me. I’ve never met him but he can say
what he wants, that’s his right. It wasn’t until you told me
that I knew it was going on. You’ve turned it into a personal attack. Mostly when comedians
are making jokes about these celebrities and celebrity culture, it’s no different from stuff
you hear from friends. The banter we have
every day with our mates about some celebrity on television
that we don’t particularly like. Are you trying to suggest
that celebrities don’t know they’re ridiculed
by the general public? That Katie Price thinks
that Frankie Boyle is the only comedian that
doesn’t respect her life choices? No, of course. We’re just individuals,
willing to risk going onstage, saying what everyone else down
the pub is saying on a Friday night. It seems the general public can say
whatever they want about celebrities but comedians can’t, and that’s hypocrisy. That’s not fair. There is a market for shock comedy. A huge market, OK? But there’s also a market for
legging sadomasochism and Justin Bieber. All arguably more offensive
than anything anyone’s ever said. I’m not trying to say that you
shouldn’t be offended or upset by things. I’m in no position to tell you
what should or shouldn’t upset you. That is your right
to react however you want But, we comedians also have a right; a right to say whatever we want
to make our audience laugh and get the reaction that we want. We’re fortunate enough
to live in a society where there is loads of comedy nowadays. Comedy’s bigger than it’s ever been. So if you don’t like one style of comedy,
you can go see another one. Everything’s catered for. But we should be allowed to do
whatever makes our audience laugh. Not people that weren’t there, the audience that paid to come see us,
that traveled around the world and countries sometimes to come
and see us do what we do without having to worry that
there’s someone in the audience who might take one of our jokes
out of context and then repeat it. Because most of the time
the jokes are taken out of context. You know, you’re only given
the brutal punchline. You’re only told the joke
by a news presenter with her sour face just repeating it. That’s not how it was delivered. You’re not given the context, you’re not given the setup, you’re not given the atmosphere, you’re not even given
the audience reaction. And that’s not fair. You don’t take other
storyteller’s stories out of context. If I were to tell you
when I was five years old, my dad would tell my a story
about a mass murderer who would disguise himself
as a close relative in order to get close to a young girl
so that he could have his way with her, and just before he managed to do that,
he was brutally murdered. Everyone would agree that
my dad’s a dreadful man. But if i point out that that’s the basic story line
for ‘Little Red Riding Hood,’ a lot less people are phoning
child services. OK? You know how it was intended
to be delivered and you expected that way. Alright? A story is just a story,
and a joke is just a joke. You knew the stories that you heard
as a kid weren’t true. Right? There was no monster under the bed,
no Boogie Man in the corner. Your granddad wasn’t really
ripping off his thumb and taking the pain exceptionally well. He was just doing it. Please apply the same logic
to our stories. We’re saying these jokes as jokes. There’s very rarely
malicious intent behind it. There may not be jokes that you like,
but what we’re doing is taking a concept and we’re exaggerating it, lying about it, turning it in such a way
you weren’t expecting it. And sometimes, we turn it in a way
that you don’t like. But that’s your problem. The world doesn’t revolve around you. Ignore it. Move on. Forget about it. Alright? You seem to assume that comedians
haven’t gone through any hardships. Whereas most of the time it’s a hardship
that’s caused us to get into comedy. Our reaction to our hardships
was to make light of the situation and get over it, as opposed to
going round the country making sure that nobody ever mentions
it ever again to hurt my delicate soul. So that’s my point,
that’s the point I’m trying to make. If at any point you’ve [dis]agreed
with anything I’ve said, don’t worry, it was just
a story, I made it all up. Thank you very much. (Applause)

100 comments

Wow… tough crowd. He's one of the funniest and smartest comedians out there and he got a total of about 7 laughs.

Comedy never ofended me. Comedy learned me about life, about me, about everything I could't learn from news, friends, family. This guy made me think about myselfe, my relationships with women, about happines( my own happines). Lost my mum, dad, brother and then girlfriend left me. Was so bad and I was wondering is it all me? Am I the guilti one… Now I'm learning to love myselfe, I'm not trying to find that person to fill the void I'm trying to be happy on my own and for now it is going great. Thanks Daniel, so sorry you didn't come to Split Croatia. Had ticket in hand… Next time hope you won't cancel.

Just seeing this for the first time. Eating it up, as usual, Daniel. You are a gifted storyteller. Period. I enjoy your work.

It's has broadened the horizon of my mindset towards comedian
Btw thought one comedian was mean but now I no longer do

Something is only offensive if it was intentionally offensive by whoever said it. Context is so so important.

I think there is a problem when a joke is rooted in homophobia/sexism/racism.
I'm not talking about "oh no the punchline was 'women belong in the kitchen', this is obviously very serious, and this man is a sexist!" I'm talking about if the joke is only funny if you have a genuine disrespect for other people and their identity.

This is an interesting debate, are there things comedians shouldn't joke about? There's a general idea of punching up and not down (mock the majority not the minority). But its not a rule, they do technically have the right to say what they want, but they're also responsible for how the public recives that messagen either positively or negatively.

I get the distinct impression that the audience had no idea that he was a comedian until he mentioned the fact.

Damn dude – I was already a big fan of your comedy but that was insightful and so so well delivered. Nicely done.

I don’t like someone in this video!!! The Audience!!!! What’s wrong with those people!!!??
Great video!! Great Talk!!

7 years on, still haven't heard of this chap. Are there really still people who don't understand jokes?
Must be a British thing, life's a joke.

Wow!!! What a realistically, intelligent, completely justified interpretation of today's delusional, PC, libtard influence that is attempting to impose its sanctimonious and self-righteous perception of how others should perceive a comical view of life.

Well, I myself as a writer and a wannabe comedian think this is so greatly explained I don't even know what to say. I stand up and clap to this all alone in my room. Because I'm a writer and I have no friends.

I disagree on some of the things he's said on comedians. Some do pretty much tell actual things that have happened to them, and deal with serious topics of conversation without being too "political". Also there is a difference in telling jokes with sensitive subject material and watching a show with sensitive subject material, and that is context and expectations. If you're tuning into a crime drama, you know what you're getting into, and the context of the show paints a certain picture. Even if it's not heavy handed, when you watch the show you understand the heavyness, the impact, and the consequence of the actions. In comedy you tell a joke and people laugh and move on. There's no consequence or impact, it's a moment and it's gone. And unless you know the comic and know it's common material from them, you may not expect a taboo joke. A joke to be next person night be traumatic to someone else.

I always say that I don't think it's impossible that sensitive topics can't be told in a funny way with the right context, however there are some jokes that should be avoided or at least handled properly.

What an incredible talk from someone who demonstrates an astounding level of self awareness, not that age is the measure of such things but the very human and relatable delivery of a very poignant topic is so effective that I’m a bit lost for words. Well done Daniel!

This is a message a lot of people need to understand. I'm glad his special on netflix also goes into it, though way more funny lol

This talk needs to become a conversation. Its thought provoking and making it hard for me to sit here and simply spectate this. Is there anyway to ask him about some of the stuff he's saying here cause I have questions?

Daniel does himself a disservice, he's clever, witty and very smart. His parents did a fantastic job, though their humour definitely rubbed off on him 🙂

It's awesome because in one of his specials he mentions how his folks are geniuses in their own rights, mainly natural and mechanical sciences and that he's not. I honestly think the dude's a bit of a social science genius…

Comedy is like spicy food.
Some of it can be very difficult to take in. A lot of people can't handle the more intense varieties. If you aren't ready for it, it can bring tears or send you running to the bathroom.
But just because you don't enjoy spicy food does not mean other people don't. It might hurt you to try it, but other people actively seek it out; it's their favorite thing to have. Just because a curry with too many chilis made you gag doesn't give you the right to prevent other people from having it.
Your tastes are not universal, and it's not up to you to determine what is palatable for everyone else.

Saw him live, watched his shows, have no time at the moment for this Ted talk. I'll like it anyways. This guy is the God of comedy, young, talented, truthful speaking comedian. Check him out: Daniel Sloss, on Netflix. OMG! Waiting for him in Italy in a few months 👏

Love this guys art! Came across him on Netflix and both “Dark” and “Jigsaw” have such powerful topics that just hit the nail on the head! He’s doing a US tour right now and I’m so excited to see his show “X” next month! This guy needs to become the next best thing in America! He’s killing it!

Well Done Daniel, perfect explanation of story telling telling in general and comedians joke in particular, everyone has a right to be offended just as everyone has a right to fart, both can cause a scene.

A 22 year old professor of how the world is supposed to communicate. Brilliant. Seeing him tonight at 28 years? old in San Francisco.

The reason for comedy to potentially be more provocative and hurtful (due to insecurities on the receiving end) is BECAUSE comedy is MADE TO BE LAUGHED AT, the stories and their truths are meant to be laughed at, not gauged, not shown in film for us to have whatever reaction to (we can still decide to cry or laugh, we aren't forced to laugh). Nobody goes to a comedy show expecting to cry, do I expect a movie to be able to do this? Yes. People that got hurt by people laughing at something (a joke) were just themselves personally not ready yet for the joke – and READY YET because aren't we all alive in order to laugh in the end? Whatever we been through; life should be about happiness, laughter, and joy, and that is indeed also why Comedians shouldn't be attacked for laughing about pain as Daniel says. Look at Kevin Hart and his album "Laugh at my pain". Joking about pain is funny – given the proper context; we all have a moral compass- , because it is relief, relief that stems from experiencing the common understanding of one joke, of a certain pain we are laughing with (becaaausee most of all went through something similar) We know that we never are alone. Not even in times of pain, ready or not. ♥

Well, it was strange hearing Daniel being so serious.
I know he probably isn't like his stage persona in his private life, but it was still wierd.
Interesting as well.

“If we shadows have offended,

Think but this, and all is mended,

That you have but slumbered here

While these visions did appear.

And this weak and idle theme,

No more yielding but a dream,

Gentles, do not reprehend:

If you pardon, we will mend:

And, as I am an honest Puck,

If we have unearned luck

Now to 'scape the serpent's tongue,

We will make amends ere long;

Else the Puck a liar call;

So, good night unto you all.

Give me your hands, if we be friends,

And Robin shall restore amends.”

I never see anyone who admits to being one of the morons he is talking about. What I do not understand is why whining is ever adhered to.

people cant take a joke or the truth in this world. too politically correct or its a huge problem with everyone everywhere!!!!!

People weren't laughing at parts because when he talked about being a comic from the top, and presented his subject matter, people were waiting to be offended.
The crowds judgemental mindset was palpable.

The first half or so, he was very monotone and almost lost me. Then he picked up and became his animated self. He made SO many good points. People need to lighten up and not take themselves so seriously, and comics should have license to perform however they see fit. Fuc'em if they can't take a joke! I love this guy and think the audience didn't get the best of him. I did not expect to see him on a TED Talk.

I got so confused weh nDaniel said "Actors are never criticezed for their roles in films" but then i looked at the date and saw this was in 2012. Yeah, Dan… that's gonna be a bit different in 7 years

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